{"id":20372,"date":"2015-11-27T12:35:18","date_gmt":"2015-11-27T04:35:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.imoney.my\/articles\/?p=20372"},"modified":"2020-06-23T09:40:18","modified_gmt":"2020-06-23T01:40:18","slug":"outplay-the-power-play-in-your-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.imoney.my\/articles\/outplay-the-power-play-in-your-marriage","title":{"rendered":"Outplay The Power Play In Your Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

He works but she doesn’t, or perhaps she does, and he stays home. How about when the income scale tips lower on one side than the other? And there\u2019s also the couple with the family of one spouse being wealthier than the other.<\/p>\n

All these are common situations that can lead to a power play within a marriage. A power play happens when the earner or the one with access to more money dictates the spending priorities in the family \u2013 which can mean making most major family decisions.<\/p>\n

Power plays can get ugly and over time lead to resentment and eventually the breakdown of a marriage.<\/p>\n

These situations can make it easy for the spouse with more income to initiate a power play and dictate how the money is to be spent. Some even go as far as calling it financial bullying. This can be multiplied when the other spouse is unemployed or underemployed, adding salt to the wound.<\/p>\n

Some of these marriages may not end in divorce, but constant fighting about money problems and the tension that ensues can kill whatever happiness the couple once envisioned when they said \u201cI do\u201d.<\/p>\n

<\/span>The power struggle is real<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

How does money trigger a power play? Some couples can successfully navigate through their marriage without any power struggle \u2013 perhaps they have reached equal footing in their relationship, or perhaps one half doesn\u2019t mind not wearing the pants.<\/p>\n

According to Dr. Johnben Loy, the founder and clinical director at Rekindle Centre for Systemic Therapy in Desa Sri Hartamas, power comes down to the issue of safety.<\/p>\n

\u201cWar usually erupts because one party feels threatened.\u201d<\/p>\n

Although a power play is not unheard of in Asian families, it is not a common topic of discussion when it comes to marriage. It happens, it\u2019s just not something Asian families recognise or talk about.<\/p>\n

\u201cA power play is actually not a usual topic, especially for Asians. Westerners are clearer when it comes to recognising a power play situation,\u201d Loy adds.<\/p>\n

Certain marriages work without a power struggle because both the husband and wife hold different areas of power, and some have more impact than others.<\/p>\n

Loy explains, \u201cFinance has a lot more impact than say, parenting. I\u2019ve seen a couple, where one handles finances and does not share with the wife what is going on, while the wife handles parenting, where she restricts the husband\u2019s access to the children.\u201d<\/p>\n

The question is, what is the level of transparency and communication should couples try to achieve, and when does it begin?<\/p>\n

\u201cIt really needs to begin early on. Believe it or not, we usually fall in love with people that represent someone in our past. And it is not always someone healthy in our past. Sometimes you could be falling in love with someone who is like a father that was very distant and aloof.\u201d<\/p>\n

The reason for this repetitive cycle is, we tend to fall in love with the same type of person we are familiar with, because he or she is someone you are used to, or perhaps, you are trying to make up for your loss.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou are not really aware of what you are going into. You could enter into a power situation whereby you lock yourself and become submissive again,\u201d says Loy, adding that this phenomenon is quite common, because human beings play roles and continue to play the same role in life.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Getting to the root of the problem<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

A power play is a deep-rooted problem, but is there a way to avoid or resolve it?<\/p>\n

According to Loy, couples can\u2019t just avoid it and sweep it under the rug. What they can do is open up the conversation right from the beginning, then at least the issue can be managed better.<\/p>\n

\u201cSometimes, you just have to say \u201cno\u201d to certain relationships that are abusive.\u201d<\/p>\n

When it comes to money, a joint approach typically trumps managing solo. Income power shouldn\u2019t automatically confer decision-making power, because it\u2019s been well documented<\/a> that men and women, often have different but complementary financial skills that work better together than separately.<\/p>\n

This is especially important for us Malaysians as it\u2019s hard to avoid a power play as the situation is likely to arise due to our cultural make up. For Asian families, it\u2019s the norm to have the husband work while the wife stays at home. Of course, this is also evolving.<\/p>\n

\u201cWith the typical example of the husband works and the wife stays at home, we have to think about the generation they are in. Are they in their 30\u2019s or 50\u2019s?\u201d<\/p>\n

Different generations view power (which often equates to money) differently. An older couple may be comfortable with unbalanced power between them, while a younger couple may not be so accepting.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Changing the dynamics<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Loy gives an example of how setting the right expectation early on is important to avoid power play:<\/p>\n

I have an American Chinese friend, who used to work as a manager in a multinational company. She and her husband are both professionals and after they got married they had three kids. She decided to quit and stay at home to take care of the family.<\/p>\n

She said to her husband, \u201cOkay, let\u2019s see the value of what I do.\u201d And she started calculating. Then, she said, \u201cIf you were to pay me to do what I do, as a full-time mum and wife, you will need to pay me about RM230,000 a year. That is my value.\u201d
\n<\/div><\/div>\n

That is an interesting way to ensure your value in the family is acknowledged and appreciated. However, will it work for families that have fallen into the power play relationship dynamic for years?<\/p>\n

In the anecdote shared by Loy, education and career make a difference. The wife in the example was seen as sacrificing her career to care for the family. She was showcasing the opportunity cost of staying home when she could be working. This is one way to show her value.<\/p>\n

The key here is to be able to represent your value clearly to your spouse. Not everyone can be in the same scenario as above but there are other ways to do it.<\/p>\n

\u201cI would say the best way to go about this situation is to do something to make yourself valuable. It could be something as simple as baking to generate some side income because you need some kind of economic value.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you don\u2019t have an education, and you have the support from your husband, then get an education. There is now Open University, which allows part-time courses. It is less and less a taboo for someone in their 30\u2019s to go to the university now.\u201d<\/p>\n

It may seem little but when you show that you have economic value in addition to your other responsibilities, it\u2019ll help resolve a power play scenario.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Reversing the equation<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

The power play has become more prevalent in Asian families today, especially with change in society over the past three decades. With technology like the Internet, culture has become more globalised, and people in the East have become more aware of gender equality and other idealogies that were uncommon in Asia before.<\/p>\n

\u201cChange has come about so quickly. We are exposed to Western ideologies and there is so much societal pressure on women to come out and be on their own.<\/p>\n

\u201cTo add to this, women\u2019s perception of themselves are changing but the men are not changing along with that, or at least, not at the same pace.\u201d<\/p>\n

This inadvertently results in power plays that leads to resentment, especially if one of the spouses holds more traditional values than the other. Will counselling be able to help?<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t think in a power play situation, the one in higher power will be open to counselling. However, the wife [assuming the wife is the one unhappy with the power play] can come for counselling separately to find out how she can manage that situation.\u201d<\/p>\n

<\/span>Is a prenuptial agreement the neutraliser?<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Prenuptial agreements, or more commonly known as, prenups, are not just something high profile celebrities do and they are becoming increasingly common, especially for high profile marriages. It may not be the most romantic idea, but many couples planning to marry opt for prenuptial agreements for many reasons.<\/p>\n

The society often has a skewed views on prenups, looking at it as a means to protect the interest of the wealthy in the worst-case scenario. However, a prenup can also be very useful for those wishing to maintain a healthy family dynamic in the unfortunate circumstances of a relationship breakdown.<\/p>\n

Will prenups work to avoid power play? Does it fit into the Asian marriage dynamics?<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t have enough research on overall whether it\u2019s a good idea or not. I have seen couples who have been negatively impacted by prenuptial agreements.<\/p>\n

\u201cFor instance, I know a woman who was struggling a little bit financially, and her husband was very comfortable financially but would not let her know what his ability was in helping her. She just had no idea,\u201d Loy recalls.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe issue was not so much about wanting money from her husband. The problem was why she still felt financially insecure\u00a0when she had\u00a0a husband who is comfortable financially?\u201d<\/p>\n

Some may want a prenup because they have gone through some nasty marriages that become messy in the absence of a prenup.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn the example above, the husband wanted a prenuptial because he had a lot of money, and he suffered a lot financially from a previous divorce. I understand why he wanted the prenuptial agreement because he had been through previous pains. He wanted to protect his assets,\u201d Loy adds.<\/p>\n

There is no hard-and-fast rule to a prenup but there are situations and circumstances that warrant a prenup, and it all depends on the couple and how they talk things through. One thing\u2019s for sure, it\u2019s not just for the wealthy. Anyone who doesn\u2019t want to risk their assets (whatever the amount) in case of a failed marriage would find a prenup the solution.<\/p>\n

Love can often make you do crazy things. However, it shouldn\u2019t blind you from issues you are facing, or may face in your marriage. Many couples won\u2019t see this issue crop up now but in\u00a0 ten or 15 years down the road, your marriage may not turn out like how you envisioned it to be when you first said \u201cI do\u201d to your other half. Hence it is important to ensure you pave the road to a conflict-free and happy marriage from the beginning. And addressing power play scenarios as early as possible is important. Be sure to talk about this with your spouse as ultimately, communication is the key to a successful marriage.<\/p>\n

If you are facing serious conflicts in your marriage, get advice from counsellors who are trained to help relationships.<\/p>\n

One way of managing your family finances well is through using the right credit card<\/a>. Apply for one, and get a supplementary card!<\/p>\n

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