{"id":17430,"date":"2015-07-31T14:21:13","date_gmt":"2015-07-31T06:21:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.imoney.my\/articles\/?p=17430"},"modified":"2020-08-21T18:14:03","modified_gmt":"2020-08-21T10:14:03","slug":"making-marriage-and-money-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.imoney.my\/articles\/making-marriage-and-money-work","title":{"rendered":"Making Marriage And Money Work"},"content":{"rendered":"

Malaysia has seen divorce rates skyrocketed, with the number of divorces more than doubled from 2004 (14%) to 2012 (26%). At the current rate, there is a marriage breaking down every 10 minutes, on average!<\/p>\n

Marriages ending up in divorce may have something to do with the spouses failing to live up to their commitments and obligations.<\/p>\n

\u201cMoney and sex are the top two factors for marital problems. Finance does come in as a critical area that exacerbates couple conflicts,\u201d Dr. Johnben Loy, the founder and clinical director at Rekindle Centre for Systemic Therapy in Desa Sri Hartamas, says.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re starry-eyed and in love, it\u2019s easy to overlook some of the important topics of discussion. But the truth is, if you really love this person, you\u2019ll be willing to put in some hard work on the front end to create a game plan for life.<\/p>\n

Even though money fights and money problems have been the leading cause of divorce for decades, people are still not talking about money with their honey before they tie the knot.<\/p>\n

They say love is blind, but they also say love doesn\u2019t last forever. Ask any couple who have been married for years and they would agree.<\/p>\n

<\/span>The triggering factor<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

To understand why a marriage breaks down, one can look at it from two angles \u2013 the process and the content.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen we look at the process, we look at the communication dynamics, and also at how people perceive things, as well as, their past history,\u201d explains Loy.<\/p>\n

\u201cOn the content side, we look at the triggering factors. For example, the factors could be parenting, sex, finance, communication or even the in-laws.\u201d<\/p>\n

There are two ways to look at reasons for marital conflict or divorce \u2013 the process and the content.